Female orgasm

In yet another irony of male-female relations, the longer men go without orgasming, the easier it is for them to do so. But women are the opposite--the longer it's been, the harder it is! It may be especially difficult to successfully orgasm for the first time. Partially for these reasons, anorgasmia (difficulty with/inability to achieve orgasm) is far more common among women than men. While anorgasmia can result from a variety of causes, there are some things that women and their partners can do to increase the likelihood of orgasm.

First, masturbation via manual stimulation and/or a vibrator (or other sex toy) can be extremely helpful. Masturbation can be done with or without a partner, however a woman feels most comfortable. It is a good way to get to know your body and what types of sexual stimulation work best for you. Because of the often intense levels of stimulation provided by vibrators and the relatively little effort required to use them, they may be particularly helpful for women who have extreme difficulty orgasming, and there are vibrators available by prescription for both men and women. In the case of women, there is evidence that some vibrators can restore/increase blood flow to the clitoral area, increasing sexual pleasure. While there are a variety of different types of vibrators available, I would recommend one that at least stimulates the clitoral area, since not all women can orgasm due to penetration.

Which brings me to my second point, about penile-vaginal intercourse. Many women have difficulty orgasming during penile-vaginal intercourse without additional stimulation. Helpful tips include: extensive foreplay, additional lubrication if necessary, manual or vibrator stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse, and trying different positions and angles. Woman-on-top positions may help women to orgasm via clitoral stimulation.

Finally, women can do Kegel Exercises! These exercise the pelvic floor (PC) muscles, and in addition to increasing sexual pleasure for women, they also increase bladder control. While it can take some practice to do them correctly, once you have the hang of it, they can be done almost anywhere, anytime--and nobody else will have a clue! First locate your PC muscles, either by starting and stopping the flow of urine when using the bathroom, or inserting a finger in your vagina and squeezing. If you're squeezing the right muscles, your finger should be squeezed. There are two basic types of Kegel exercise--faster squeeze-and-release exercises, and longer squeeze and count to X number of seconds (usually between 3 and 10). For maximum results, you should use both types of exercises. For more information, you can type "Kegel exercises" into Google. I think Wikipedia even has a page!